You’ve decided it’s time to see a provider, congratulations! This is very exciting, and probably overwhelming. In a sea of AI, bots, fake ads and OF girls utilizing escorting sites; how do you find the right companion for you?
Just like any other industry, there are ways to verify if someone is reputable and open to the type of experience you are seeking. You have to be willing to look, and I am here with a few suggestions.
The truth IS out there if you are willing to look. There are indeed cathedrals for those with eyes to see, or in this case companions. Reputable providers have been doing this a long time, we are very clear about what we do and do not offer. And we are very cut and dry about how you can get in touch with us. You just have to know where to look!
Before we continue…
*This guide is written and developed solely by me and is based on my own opinions and experiences as a provider in the US, as well as information I’ve gathered from some of my clients and other providers I know personally*
Finding The One
Ad Sites
There are a few ad sites I know and recommend where they verify the posters, however there are still caveats.
Tryst
Tryst is trusted, however recently has been receiving backlash because they have not been diligent about verifying whether or not a poster is offering in person experiences. As such, it is frustrating and becoming slowly overrun with OF models. But, each person is real and verified.
Slixa
Slixa requires all posters to be verified with ID.
P411
P411 requires verification and they are diligent about checking to see if a provider is real and legitimate. I believe P411 does cost money for clients to join.
Social Media
This one is a bit trickier for a couple of reasons:
1. Social media sites tend to ’shadow ban’ or flag adult service accounts
2. Anyone can post to social media, there is literally no verification.
You can start by searching your location, and following providers who show up. Looking at their following list, you should be able to find more provider accounts. Social media is a wonderful way to not only see a provider’s photos, but learn more about her. What does she like, how can you impress her, and most importantly how you can book them.
Google Search
I know, this one seems generic – however it is NOT. I get a LOT of returns on my google SEO, and there are still a lot of ad sites and boards where providers post and are active. My recommended searches are ‘your location escorts’ or ‘your location dominatrix’. You can also add niches such as ‘your location gfe escort’ or ‘your location fetish escort’. Google search is a wonderful way to start exploring what options you may have for seeing a companion.
Verifying The One
You’ve found them, now it’s time to make sure you are ready to take the plunge. Before proceeding, you need to decide what you consider legitimate. Verified reviews? A lot of active ads? A personalized website? Active socials?
Once you have a list of at least two ways to legitimatize someone, now it’s time to follow through.
1. Connect the dots – if you found them on an ad site, does their contact information match their socials/website/other ads? Are their handles consistent? Is the ad copy and writing consistent? Multiple links, phone numbers, emails, or inconsistent data is a red flag.
2. Do the photos look consistent and up to date? Not all providers are face out, however you should be able to tell that the body is consistent. Are their photos AI edited or touched up immensely? If it is important to you that someone looks *exactly* like their photos, consider looking for a provider who posts more selfies or natural looks or videos without filters.
3. Read their website, check links that they have posted to their ads or review sites. Make sure that photos match socials, ads, etc. Read their blog, does it feel like it has been written by a real person?
4. Read their reviews and check multiple sites. Do the reviews look copied, like the same person has written them? Or, are they authentically unique? Do they feel like they were written by real individuals who had slightly varied experiences? It is true that some providers can pay or fake reviews, however it is fairly easy to sus them out if you browse over a few of them.
Also, is the review site legitimate? Sites I can recommend are TER, Private Delights, and Erotic Monkey. However, clients can write whatever they want and TER has been known to keep all reviews up. Read more than one review and see if it was a bad apple client or there are multiple negative reviews of someone.
Booking The One
Now that you’ve found her and verified she is REAL and legitimate, let’s get you booked.
- Read the WEBSITE or AD COPY. 99.9% of us have a direct and clear way we prefer to be contacted. Mine is my booking form, however I also offer email and texting. Once you have found hers…
- Read the WEBSITE or AD COPY again and make sure your boundaries and rates align. It is your job to make sure you can provide screening, deposit and adequate donation. If your boundaries don’t align, find another provider who does align with you. You need to be prepared to provide what the they need to proceed with the booking, just as they have so diligently provided the steps to book them.
All of this is usually laid out. If it is not laid out – contact the provider directly with a note such as:
‘I would like to request more information about your rates, as I could not locate them on your website or ads. I have read the rest of your requirements and am willing and able to follow through with your booking process. I am looking forward to your reply.’ - Reach out to the provider via their preferred method, and follow through with their booking process. Be polite, and if at any time something doesn’t align with your boundaries say ‘no thank you’ and move on.
DON’T do the following:
Send a deposit before verifying or establishing contact with the provider. I hear this all too often… ‘I was ripped off.’ More often than not, it’s because they sent money before making sure the provider was legitimate or sent it to her before actually making contact with her. It ends up bad on both ends – the client loses money and the provider also looks bad even though it wasn’t her you sent the money to, or you sen the money to an incorrect place.
Send a booking request or inappropriate messages to the provider. Don’t send racy messages where they don’t belong, don’t send or ask for unsolicited images. Don’t send a booking request somewhere it doesn’t belong! Remember: a lot of places are NOT sex work friendly and you are putting accounts and privacy at risk for both of us!
Harass a provider, or ask her to cross her boundaries for you. If she requires deposit and you don’t pay deposits, that is fine. If they are too expensive, that is fine. Say thank you and move on politely. It wastes everyone’s time arguing.
Cross your boundaries for a provider. If it feels off or weird, don’t do it. Politely decline and move on – it will prevent resentment and potential bad times for all.
DO the following:
Follow them on socials, subscribe to their OF, buy content or send gifts and tips to their verified pages and links. We love to be wooed, and this is a great way to establish a connection and stand out.
Be willing to consider changing your boundaries. The only thing standing in your way is YOU. If you find yourself feeling eager and comfortable to expand to a new screening method, or send a deposit – challenge yourself to change your boundaries. There are many beautiful and trusting providers willing to sweeten that sour taste in your mouth from a previous bad experience.
Get excited, explore and research. This is an exciting time! You get to find the lover of your dreams and woo them, be wooed and meet them. Look around, be open to trying new experiences and making new connections. I hope you find exactly what you are looking for!
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